Roots

I spent time thinking about roots, as in family. Marriage has also given us some truly special people in our lives. When I look at all the members in our family, I am reminded every day that we are truly very fortunate. We overcame many obstacles over the years and I believe those hard times helped us to grow and gave us the strength to be better. When I think about my grandchildren, I often think how lucky they are to have siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.
As the girls got married I thought: these girls are grown up and I have given my blessing for them to unite with their true loves. I truly believe that going forward remembering to bite my tongue and mind my own business is the best gift I can give to all of them. I was fortunate enough to gain 3 great sons-in-laws and I never wanted to be an interfering mother-in-law. I will continue supporting their marriage and being there for them when asked, not when I think I should be. This sometimes can create some issues, because I do stand back and wait to be invited and that can be a lonely place at times. So what to do…..
Our life is not perfect and neither are we. Believe me, there are some toxic family members out there and if you have them, build healthy boundaries as I have learned to do even though it is not easy. Protecting yourself from a parent, spouse or child is not what we were taught to do, they are the ones you’re are supposed to trust with everything you have, mentally, physically and financially. Unfortunately, we do have some people in our family that has hurt others and for those we will save for many more blog topics.
One last note, family does not always mean blood relatives because we have some close friends that we consider family. We truly have some great friends and no matter what there is no judgement among us. We seem to accept all the differences we have. So for our friends….keep being who you are and enjoying life.